Boundaries Are Actually Good For You Have you ever stopped to notice the impact of should on you? “You should workout more.” “I was thinking you should just do it.” “You know you should start saving.” Notice anything as you were reading those? Even if it was only slight, did you feel a reaction? Careful not to […]
This Is Why You Have Drama
Two Questions That Put You In The Driver’s Seat Do you ever feel like you’re struggling? Like you’re ‘doing life right’ – doing all the things you’ve been told to do as well as all the things you know you should do – and it’s still hard, tough or defeating? When people are dealing with […]
What Do You Do To Get People To Like You?
Stop Compromising Yourself Relationships – can’t live with ‘em can’t live without ‘em… We all want to be happy and feel good in our relationships, however more often than not we find ourselves in a place of frustration, confusion, resignation, or cynicism and we’re left feeling awkward and anxious. “I can’t say that because they’ll freak […]
Tired Of Just Surviving In Your Relationships?
Learn How To Trust Yourself Instead I was recently having a conversation with a GF of mine who is going through a really tough breakup. Of course she wants to get through the healing process as quickly as possible, and like most people she really has no idea where to start. She knows that she […]
Are You Living In An Emotional Silo?
The Secret Ingredient To Better Relationships We’ve all experienced it: disappointment, being let down, heartbreak, failure, embarrassment, the list goes on… It happens to the best of us – usually more than once – throughout the course of our lives. That’s part of the human experience of course, you can’t really avoid it. However, have […]
“I’m Fine”
Passive-Aggressive = Dysfunction “I’m fine.” …… You know what it means when someone says that to you right? Everything is definitely NOT fine and you better think quick to figure out what you did wrong. Not an awesome experience by any stretch of the imagination. It can leave you feeling a whole spectrum of not-so-awesome […]
Stop Wasting Your Time With Empty Threats
Ultimatums Are Weak – So What Else Can You Do? We’ve all been in that place where we just want to scream at someone: “If you don’t stop doing that, I’ll _______!!!” (Insert: leave, stop talking to you, tell, break up with you, fire you, quit, ground you, etc…) Doesn’t matter if you’re a mother, father, […]
The Should Trap
Letting Go Of How It “Should” Be It’s not the HOW, it’s the WHAT Ever heard that expression: “Don’t push the river, it flows by itself”? A friend of mine used to say that all the time and I always figured I had a sense of what she was saying. However a while back I got […]
Flip The Switch On The Voice In Your Head
The Truth About Mental Mastery Recently I was reading an article about the things mentally strong people do differently. It made me think about one of the ongoing conversations I have with clients – especially clients who are new to working on and developing themselves. One of the things I’ve noticed is how, at the […]
It’s Your Turn To Take The Lead!
3 Steps To Be THE LEADER Of Your Life Leadership… what is it? Often when we start thinking about leadership, we think about it from the perspective of the professional world: managers, bosses, employers… generally speaking “the person in charge”. The trouble is, that kind of thinking puts the context for leadership out there – a […]