Ultimatums Are Weak – So What Else Can You Do? We’ve all been in that place where we just want to scream at someone: “If you don’t stop doing that, I’ll _______!!!” (Insert: leave, stop talking to you, tell, break up with you, fire you, quit, ground you, etc…) Doesn’t matter if you’re a mother, father, […]
The Truth About Change
It’s REALLY Hard!! Have you ever seen that video about a dude trying to UN-learn how to ride a normal bicycle and teach himself to ride what he is calling a ‘backwards bicycle’. The basics of the story are: This dude is an engineer. His colleagues created the backwards bike and bet him he couldn’t […]
Flip The Switch On The Voice In Your Head
The Truth About Mental Mastery Recently I was reading an article about the things mentally strong people do differently. It made me think about one of the ongoing conversations I have with clients – especially clients who are new to working on and developing themselves. One of the things I’ve noticed is how, at the […]
F**K YES You Deserve It!
Stop Settling For Half-Assed! Recently I was put in a position where I had to make a choice. I wanted something that wasn’t actually available (a relationship)… a version of what I wanted was available (a relaxed and non-committal relationship) but not the actual thing I wanted (a committed relationship.) In the past what I’ve […]
You Are Not Alone
It’s Time To Stop Hiding In the work I do one of the things I notice is that people think they ‘must be the only one who __(fill in the blank)__’… When people believe they’re the only one who feels that way/ thinks that way/ is dealing with that thing, they judge themselves as ‘there’s […]
Crushing Your Limiting Beliefs
The Root Of All Self-Sabotage The further you get into the world of self-awareness you’ll likely start to discover just how hard us humans tend to make life for ourselves. In this article I’m going to get right to the point and talk about a really common way we shoot ourselves in the foot and in […]
Emptying The Emotional Junk Drawer
A Different Kind Of Spring Clean Have you ever noticed how your junk drawer just keeps collecting, well, junk? I recently started a purge – a spring clean that may extend into summer 😉 I started going through my whole house and discovered way more random stuff had collected than I thought. When I started going through everything […]
I’m Not A Control Freak…
Am I?? “I’m not a control freak. I’m totally flexible as long as things go my way.” “I’m not really a control freak, but can I show you the right way to do that?” “I’d call myself a bit of a control freak.” “I prefer to be in control of things.” The phrase ‘control freak’ […]
How Bad Do You Really Want It?
The Real Reason You Don’t Get What You Want “I’ll try…” How many times have you said that? It’s a pretty common phrase in our culture and it’s usually said in relation to something we’d like to accomplish in our lives. The thing is, as soon as those words leave your lips you’ve pretty much […]
The 5 Key Elements Of Unshakeable Self-Esteem
Say YES to YOU! Recently I’ve been spending time contemplating the concept of self-esteem. It’s a topic that’s been coming up a lot with me and my clients lately so I thought it deserved some investigation. I mean what exactly is self-acceptance? How do you do it? And how can you tell if you have […]